Describe the situation in one sentence. Get a 4‑phase non‑violent script — open, reflect, propose, close — with concrete phrasing you can use almost verbatim.
Most conflict scripts arrive in the moment — and we reach for the worst ones. A pre‑built script gives the brain a default to reach for instead of improvising under stress.
The script is a scaffold, not a script you must recite. The point is to arrive with structure; the words will adjust themselves to fit the moment.
Scripts don't help with patterns of abuse, manipulation, or coercive control — those need outside support. They also don't fix situations where one party won't engage honestly.
Pause. Use the close step earlier than planned: "I think we both need time. Let's come back to this tomorrow." That's also a complete outcome.
Written conflict escalates faster. Read it aloud in person or on a call if you can.